Rob Tart explains in this video that one of the most important things that a parent should work towards is to win the heart of their child. If they do not have the heart of their child, it is very difficult to maintain a harmonious relationship with a child and to pursue shared goals together. To win the heart of a child, parents need to listen, care for their children, and affirm them when applicable.

Proverbs 17:22 (NKJV) - "A merry heart does good, like medicine, but a broken spirit dries the bones."

The biggest thing that a parent has to do is to win the heart of their child. If we've won the heart of our children, then we can lead them anywhere. But if we don't have their hearts, we can lead them nowhere. And I will never forget a sermon I heard by, I can't call his name right now, I heard it 15 more years ago, but he talked about winning the heart of an angry child. And he said there's three things you've got to do.

And he used Absalom's negative example of how he stole the hearts of the people of Israel. When the people came before, wanted to come before the king to express a grievance, he would intercept them, he would hear their story, he would compliment them on what their position was, and then it says he kissed them. And from that, S.M. Davis said that we are to do those three things. We are to listen, affirm, and touch.

And I think that's what we've got to do with our children at six years old, 16 years old, or 26 years old. We've got to listen, affirm them when we can. We don't want to lie to them like we absolutely did. And we need to touch them. You