Paul White explains in this video that it is important to realize that our sins against Christ are serious. Regardless of the shortcomings he might see in his wife, a husband is still responsible to love her, care for her, and provide for her. There isn't a caveat for a husband's command to act towards his wife in these ways. Rather, he is to love her as Christ loved the Church.

Lamentations 3:22-23 (NKJV) - "Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed, because His compassions fail not.
They are new every morning; Great is Your faithfulness."

One thing that I say often to single men and married men is it's difficult to be married to the most amazing woman on the planet because we're all sinners. It's going to be even more difficult to be married to the wrong woman, or especially an unbeliever. But if you find yourself in that situation, a Christian man married to a wife who professing to be a believer or not, is angry, our pattern is the Lord Jesus. And if we ever begin to think that any anger or any fault in our wives is greater than the sins that we have committed against our Lord. We have misunderstood our sin.

So I think we have to keep that perspective. Not only are our sins against Christ greater, but the one that we have sinned against, Christ, is greater than we are. He's far more deserving of our respect and love and adoration than we are as husbands. And so keeping that perspective will help a man realize that whatever the anger is stemming from or whatever the sin issue might be in his wife, that does not change his responsibility to love her, to serve her, to pursue her as Christ has his church. Again, Christ has far many more reasons to say, okay this bride's just too much.

There's too much that's required, it's too much work, it's too hard. Infinitely beyond whatever pitiful circumstances we might find ourselves in in our 40, 50, 60, or 70 years in marriage. So look to the Lord Jesus as our pattern.