Marcus Serven discusses the topic of holiness in marriage in this video. When you wake up every day, do you confess your sins and recognize your need for a Savior? In the family, spouses need to be aware that the other spouse is a sinner just as they are. As you grow in holiness, you begin to deny yourself and truly follow Christ. For husbands, they are to think of their wife before themselves.

Philippians 2:4 (NKJV) - "Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others."

The whole question of how this holiness manifests itself or what does it look like in a family context and specifically in marriage between a husband and a wife. Well, holiness, as I already said, is the work of the Holy Spirit in bringing about the transformative aspects of the gospel. And so when you wake up every day, do you remember that you're in Christ and do you confess your needs as a sinner saint. The way Martin Luther would put it is that we're semel justus et peccador, which means simultaneously justified while still a sinner. And he coined that way of thinking based on numerous parts of scripture, which teach that there's this period of growth and progress that has to take place after one's conversion.

And that's what we call sanctification, of course. So in the family, what that looks like is that I have to recognize that my wife is a sinner saint just like me and she needs to recognize that of her husband, namely me. But what happens over time is as you're growing in holiness, then the person begins to deny themselves, pick up their cross, and truly follow Jesus in the Christian life in that marriage. And so for the husband specifically it means thinking of your wife first rather than yourself. Or for the wife it means respecting and honoring your husband and thinking about how she might please him, and for the husband to think how he might please his wife, that's how that's worked out.

And so the whole issue of self-sacrifice, of self-denial, of thinking about the other person, of dying daily to yourself, That's a way that it's manifested in the marriage and in the home life. You