Trent Moody explains in this video that children are commanded to obey their parents. No matter how old they get, they should always honor their parents. If a child is questioning the teaching of parents, parents ought to point them to Scripture instead of coming up with a reason for why they are asking them to do a specific thing. While children have a responsibility to talk to their parents if they have questions, parents should make themselves available to discuss the struggles or questions of their children.

Exodus 20:12 (NKJV) - "Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the Lord your God is giving you."

I would really want to encourage that child to the Scriptures. The Scriptures commands us to honor our father and mother and to obey them. Now obviously when that child gets to a certain age, it changes slightly there towards honoring our parents. I always want to honor my parents, although I don't always obey my parents now. So there comes that time.

But I would really want to delve into why are you thinking these thoughts and where do these thoughts come from? And really want to search out the depth of those, the questionings that they have. But also point them back, what does the scripture say? What does God's word say about how you should treat your parents, how you should look to your parents. I would ask them, have you spoken to your parents about this?

I was speaking to someone just recently, to a sister of a young lady who had left home. The mother was in shock. She said, you never shared any of these thoughts with me. You never shared your concerns, or you never told me that you thought this was wrong. And so, this goes both ways.

I think children have a responsibility to talk to their parents, but I think parents have the responsibility to make those opportunities available. Ask them the questions. I know often when I have the opportunity to ride with one of my children, maybe I'll take them to work with me or put them in the car with me to go to the grocery store. Oftentimes I try to only take one or two and I will ask them those questions. So what do you think, you know, what's going through your mind right now?

What are you thinking about this certain situation? Do you have any questions for me? Anything that we're doing that maybe you don't understand that I can explain or give you a reason why we do what we do. And so sometimes with certain children, you have to draw those things out. It can't just be a one question and done, but we have to draw those things out of our children.

And that again is part of shepherding the heart of our children and knowing our children and trying that out.