Should a husband love a wife even if he believes she is unloveable?

Joel Beeke explains in this video that a wife may be difficult to live with but a husband is to love their wife no matter what. She is the wife that God has sovereignly given to him.

They are not to ask how they are being treated by their wife but they are to unconditionally love her as Christ loves the Church. The love of a husband is not conditioned upon his wife loving him first.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NKJV) - "Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."

William Gudge, who is the most famous of the 29 Puritan writers who wrote books on marriage in the 17th century, in his Domestical duties. He says something like this, husband you can have a wife who is homely, who is awkward, who is cantankerous, who's like a nag like a dripping faucet in an attic, as we read in Proverbs. And just in every way, mean-spirited. But you are to treat her like she's the most beautiful queen in all the world because she is the woman that God in his sovereign providence has given you and you are to love her the way Christ would love the church. Unconditional.

And then he turns to the woman and he says, to you as a wife? Your husband may be a son of Belial. He may be mean-spirited. He may be hard to live with. He may just be so undesirable that no woman would want it.

But He's been given to you by God. You're to show Him respect and submission. Under Christ, of course, if He commands you to sin, you're to disobey Him, because Christ is the higher authority, and the Word is higher authority. But barring those conditions, you're to show respect and submission to Him, and not ask, how is He treating me, I will do my duty.