How should fathers and husbands deal with sin in their lives?

Michael Beasley explains in this video that he is not a servant to Christ if he is not dealing with his sin. He is deceiving himself and hiding something that cannot be hidden. He is sinning further against his family by not acknowledging his sin. As a father, this is important. It is imperative for a man to confess sins to his children and his wife.

It is crucial that we as fathers take ownership of our sins. One of the worst things that a parent or spouse can do is to live a life where they pretend to be perfect or without sin. Our children will see through our hypocrisy if we do not confess our sin.

Proverbs 28:13 (NKJV) - "He who covers his sins will not prosper, but whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy."

I'm not being a servant to my wife, and mostly and far above all, a servant to Christ, if I'm sinning and not dealing with my sin. If I'm sinning and not dealing with my sin, again, I'm deceiving myself. I'm hiding something that cannot be hidden. And really what I'm doing is I'm sinning further against my wife by not acknowledging the fact that I've committed sin. So in a sense I'm heaping sins on the original sin by denying or deceiving myself and ignoring the sin.

And as a father, This is important as well. Not only is this imperative, is it imperative to me to confess sins to my wife, but also before my children. In fact, it was just a week ago in family devotions, I was talking to my children and I was taking ownership of the fact before them of some shortcomings I had had over the last several weeks, things that I wasn't really doing in terms of ministering to them as a father. And I believe that it is absolutely crucial that as a father that I take ownership of that. If they know that there's something standing between my wife, their mother, and I, I need to deal with that.

If there's something that I'm not doing in terms of ministering to them, again, I need to deal with that. I think one of the worst things that a parent and a spouse can do is to try to live a life where they pretending to be perfect or without sin and I think that there's sometimes in the culture the expectation that parents are supposed to put on a facade of, well, we don't ever really do anything wrong before children. Well, kids are pretty sharp and they can see beyond that. They can see past that pretty quickly. And if we play out that facade, all that they see is hypocrisy.

But when we confess sin and we acknowledge our shortcomings to them, what we're doing is remodeling the beauty, again, of the publican who is beating his chest and saying, Lord, have mercy on me, the sinner. We're showing them that this is how we deal with sin. We don't get the broom out and try to just brush it under the rug. No, we pull that thing out, we expose it, we confess it, we deal with it, and then we move on. And when we do that, we're modeling that for others.