Should you still apologize to another individual if you wronged them, but what they did to you was more serious? 

Joel Beeke explains that even if someone is 90% wrong and you are only 10% wrong, you should still repent of the thing that you did wrong. It doesn't matter that the other person is more at fault -- you still did wrong, no matter how insignificant of a wrong it may be. 

 

That is the beauty of a repentant heart. Where there is a tender heart and conscience, you are the first person to step forward and apologize. Because Jesus has forgiven us and given us a new heart, we can and also ought to forgive others.

Ephesians 4:31-32 (NKJV) – “Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.”

I have a brother who said, you know if someone else is 90% wrong and you are only 10% wrong, that's the way you feel. What you should do is go to that person and say brother I'm really sorry I shouldn't have said what I said. Forget his 90%, you're 10% wrong, don't worry about him, you repent yourself. He said you know what, as a byproduct you don't do it for that reason but as a byproduct usually that other person's conscience then smites them, and they say, well, you know, I really did what was wrong too. And you can have reconciliation.

And that's the beauty. That's the beauty of repentance, where there's a tender heart, a tender conscience that's repentant. You are the first one to step forward and say, I'm wrong, will you forgive me? So these should be easy words for us to say, will you forgive me? Because Jesus has forgiven us everything.

We should be easy to forgive people who have offended us, and it should be easy for us to say, would you