How can we poorly implement reformation in the family?

Gary Powers explains in this video that we can poorly implement reformation in our own family when we don’t think, pray, or study God's Word before demanding change. 

As a father, we can just harshly demand that they act a certain way without explaining why. Leading by power is the lowest form of leadership. We must first model it in our own lives. We as fathers must look to the life of Christ and the patterns and precepts laid down in Scripture and teach others to do the same.

Ephesians 5:1-2 (NKJV) – “Therefore be imitators of God as dear children. 2 And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma.”

I think we can implement Reformation in the family poorly when We don't really think it through, we don't really pray it through, and we just can command as a father, we can command our family and our children. We can say, we're just doing it because I said, God told me we're going to do it. And we can lead with power, but leading with power is the lowest form of leadership. And we need to first of all model it in our own lives as leaders, as elders. That which we've seen him do, we ought to teach others.